Part I – Some questions I thought about:
What do I want to know about the meaning of life?
Does hell exist?
Who is anyone to tell someone else what is a sin?
If sex is a sin, why is it so good?
Is there such thing as Armageddon?
Is religion a mere weapon used to cause fear?
Does everyone go to Heaven when they die?
What is Heaven?
What happens to people who commit suicide?
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Why do relationships take so much work for them to work?
Why do people cheat?
Why do people stay with someone when they aren’t happy?
Why do people do desperate things to hang on to someone they love?
Why do people feel like they need to hurry up get married and have children?
Is there such thing as a soul mate?
Are soul mates specifically supposed to be romantic partners?
What is a family?
Why are people afraid of being alone?
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Do positive and negative energies exist?
Part II
I was most intrigued by this question: Why do people stay with someone when they aren’t happy?
1. I want to know why people stay in a relationship when they are not happy with the people they are in a relationship with. Romantic or intimate relationships versus family or friendships.
2. There are lots of self help books that seem to deal with this issue. There are lots of books dealing with relationship issues. Talk shows are using this as the center of their shows or some type of derivative of this topic. My mother stayed with my father after years of being unhappy. I’ve stayed with boyfriends even when I knew it wasn’t right for me to be with them.
3. Reasons why people stay with someone if they aren’t happy:
- a. Because they love the person
- b. They think the person is going to change
- c. Children are involved
- d. Financial issues make them think they will be in a financial bind
- e. They are afraid to hurt the other person’s feelings
- f. They are afraid of the other person’s reaction
- g. They are afraid to be alone
- h. They could be in an arranged marriage
- i. Religious purposes could make people feel like they have to stay together
- j. They don’t think they could find somebody better or someone who could treat them better
- k. Low self-esteem4. I’m sure I could talk to men and women whatever their relationship status is and they would probably be able to relate to one or more of these answers. I’m sure there are people out there with reasons beyond the list in questions number 3.
4. I don’t know if there are any reasons to contradict these answers. If I really think about it.
I am basing a lot of this writing on things I have experienced in relationships with boyfriends. I can relate to a couple of these reasons why people stay with someone when they aren’t happy. It is very hard not to talk to someone who has never been in this situation. You see it on the outside and you know the answer. You know what they should do. You think to yourself or even express to them that they need to leave the situation if they aren’t happy. And when it comes down to yourself and what’s best for you, it’s easier said than done. Then there are people who are quick to leave a relationship when it becomes necessary to leave. How do they make it seem so easy to do? Why wasn’t I able to leave a relationship when I was unhappy sooner? Why was it so hard for me to leave?
Part III
- This topic is interesting to me because I read a book recently and it made me question a lot of things on the subject of relationships. It made me think more and more about why this and why that in relationships and their problems. This is what a majority of what the book really boiled down to.
- My own personal experience as well as the experience of close friends and family members. I have been approached many times by people asking advice on what they should do and they never took it. When I would ask for advice from family and friends in regards to any of my past relationships issues, I never took their advice either.
- I don’t know what difficulties I might encounter when trying to find an answer. I hope this doesn’t become too easy.
- I hope to discover more about myself. I hope that I can be able to help or inspire other people to do what’s right for themselves. I need to know the psychological aspects of the mind when it comes to relationships and human interaction.
October 20, 2008 at 11:58 pm
check out the declaration of independence. signed in congress 1776.
people are willing to remain with the systems they are accustomed to and will endure injury from the same as long as it is sustainable. we weigh up the options and consider the good and the bad. sometimes a relationship gradually becomes bad and as we incrementally adjust we keep pulling back the do not cross line until we are against a wall. then we might say “i’m mad as a hatter and i’m not going to take it anymore!”
that’s the way it is. it can be so easy to fall asleep at the wheel.
coffee anyone?