Weblog 2: What Do I Want To Know?

Part I – Some questions I thought about:

 What do I want to know about the meaning of life?

 Does hell exist?

 Who is anyone to tell someone else what is a sin?

 If sex is a sin, why is it so good?

 Is there such thing as Armageddon?

 Is religion a mere weapon used to cause fear?

 Does everyone go to Heaven when they die?

 What is Heaven?

 What happens to people who commit suicide?

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 Why do relationships take so much work for them to work?

 Why do people cheat?

 Why do people stay with someone when they aren’t happy?

 Why do people do desperate things to hang on to someone they love?

 Why do people feel like they need to hurry up get married and have children?

 Is there such thing as a soul mate?

 Are soul mates specifically supposed to be romantic partners?

 What is a family?

 Why are people afraid of being alone?

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Do positive and negative energies exist?

Part II

I was most intrigued by this question:  Why do people stay with someone when they aren’t happy?

1.  I want to know why people stay in a relationship when they are not happy with the people they are in a relationship with.  Romantic or intimate relationships versus family or friendships.

2.  There are lots of self help books that seem to deal with this issue.  There are lots of books dealing with relationship issues.  Talk shows are using this as the center of their shows or some type of derivative of this topic.  My mother stayed with my father after years of being unhappy.  I’ve stayed with boyfriends even when I knew it wasn’t right for me to be with them.

3.  Reasons why people stay with someone if they aren’t happy:

• a. Because they love the person
• b. They think the person is going to change
• c. Children are involved
• d. Financial issues make them think they will be in a financial bind
• e. They are afraid to hurt the other person’s feelings
• f. They are afraid of the other person’s reaction
• g. They are afraid to be alone
• h. They could be in an arranged marriage
• i. Religious purposes could make people feel like they have to stay together
• j. They don’t think they could find somebody better or someone who could treat them better
• k. Low self-esteem4. I’m sure I could talk to men and women whatever their relationship status is and they would probably be able to relate to one or more of these answers. I’m sure there are people out there with reasons beyond the list in questions number 3.

 4.      I don’t know if there are any reasons to contradict these answers.  If I really think about it.

I am basing a lot of this writing on things I have experienced in relationships with boyfriends.  I can relate to a couple of these reasons why people stay with someone when they aren’t happy.  It is very hard not to talk to someone who has never been in this situation.  You see it on the outside and you know the answer.  You know what they should do.  You think to yourself or even express to them that they need to leave the situation if they aren’t happy.  And when it comes down to yourself and what’s best for you, it’s easier said than done.  Then there are people who are quick to leave a relationship when it becomes necessary to leave.  How do they make it seem so easy to do?  Why wasn’t I able to leave a relationship when I was unhappy sooner?  Why was it so hard for me to leave?

 Part III

1. This topic is interesting to me because I read a book recently and it made me question a lot of things on the subject of relationships.  It made me think more and more about why this and why that in relationships and their problems.  This is what a majority of what the book really boiled down to.
2.  My own personal experience as well as the experience of close friends and family members.  I have been approached many times by people asking advice on what they should do and they never took it.  When I would ask for advice from family and friends in regards to any of my past relationships issues, I never took their advice either.
3. I don’t know what difficulties I might encounter when trying to find an answer.  I hope this doesn’t become too easy.
4. I hope to discover more about myself.  I hope that I can be able to help or inspire other people to do what’s right for themselves.  I need to know the psychological aspects of the mind when it comes to relationships and human interaction.

 

Weblog 1: What Do I Believe

I believe that people can make a difference.   Whether it be a difference in a large scope such as the world or as small making one person smile, people can make a difference.

I believe that society is a contributing factor to people’s beliefs of material things.

I believe that the government has led the American People to believe it has failed them.

I believe that justice is not 100% full-proof.  Some people take justice into their own hands.

I believe that knowledge can really help you move up in a career.

I believe that science is something that is years behind what it should be especially in the world of medicine.  I believe that we have the science and technology to cure some diseases and illnesses but pharmaceutical companies care to make more money by having people buy prescription drugs rather than focus on cures.

I believe that reality is where you need to be but still take the time to dream.

I believe that life is complicated for a reason.

I believe that happiness is not something to find, its an experience you get to have all the time with rough moments in between.

I believe that goodness is something that not everyone possesses.

I believe that death is only the beginning because that’s when we get to go home.  Right now life on Earth is only temporary.

I believe that God is everywhere & never leaves your side.

Part II

I believe that reality is where you need to be but still take the time to dream.

I think that this is true because I think this applies to me specially.  I am 25years old and I think I grew up with this dream that I was going to be a teacher when I grew up.  I thought that I was going to be married with children by the time I was 22 or 23 years old.  I thought I was going to have a perfect and happy marriage.  By the way this sounds, its obvious that  didn’t happen.   I turn 26 at the end of the year and none of that has happened.  I joined the Navy after I graduated high school and I think that experience has lead me to believe that the dreams you have as a child, teenager or young adult change dramatically as you mature into an adult and you go through, while not exactly the same, but many of the things your parents and grandparents went through when they were your age.  That’s kind of hard to imagine because I can’t picture my mother at my age.  So its like, as you get older all those dreams of what you thought your future would look like seem to fade away.  I don’t really think this has such an effect on a daily basis because this seems to be kind of a reflection at this point.  I don’t know what types of effects this would have on me on a daily basis but it would affect long-term and short-term goals.  Some of the plausible dreams I had and pictures I had in my mind when it came to what I thought my life would be have turned into goals.

While trying to maintain the whole “staying in reality” theme, I think its healthy to have dreams.  I don’t think that anyone of us could survive without some sort of escape from our regular everyday lives.  Things such as work, children, traffic, bills, class assignments, and all the other things you can think of that make us all wanna get away from time to time.  Not getting wrapped up to much in a fantasy world is not what I mean by taking the time to dream.

Part III

People who might disagree with me might just be a different type of person.  Maybe someone who is thinks dreaming is a waste of time.  Maybe it could be someone who failed in a dream that turned into a goal.  They could be upset with themselves or let down by someone.  That person may have a defeated attitude because of this.

I don’t know exactly how their experiences differ from mine because I am by no means just a happy-go-lucky type person with a smile on my face all the time.  While I’ve had hard times in the past and things are always popping up here an there in my life that I wish didn’t (ie debt!!), I try and stay positive.  I have my moments where I feel like I’ve been defeated.  I feel like I wanna get away from it all.  But I try and remember that everything is going to be ok. 

I think there is definitely a set of experiences shared in common by people on each side of the issue.  That is mainly because life is hard sometimes.  Reality is hard sometimes.  Maybe its harder than it is easier.